Repost: Intentional Parenting

Jan 19, 2016 by Jim and Jerolyn Bogear

 

Recently, Jerolyn and I were privileged to teach and lead a parenting conference in Texas. Here is some of what was said by those who attended…

“We must be intentional parents if we hope to leave our children a legacy of Christian values that they take with them as they grow and start their own families.”

“One of the things we liked was the emphasis on discipleship, and we think we will be much more intentional about living a legacy for our children to follow.”

“After our discussion, both (of our children) were excited about creating a poster with “our family values” and could not wait to pick out a prominent wall on which to display them!  This in itself is an exciting development and one that got (my wife) and I motivated to ensure we continue to model the values to our children.”

Did you catch that more than one person mentioned the intentionality of parenting and having a plan. We love it.

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Giving Tuesday!

Nov 30, 2015 by Jim and Jerolyn Bogear

Black Friday, Small Business Saturday, Cyber Monday, but the most beneficial and life changing is Giving Tuesday.

Although it still is much about the hustle at Christmas, getting all we want from our Christmas list, and finding the deals for “us”, we are beginning to see a shift in our Christmas “gifting.” I (Jim) am a gift giver and if I could give first to my wife, and then to our children and grandchildren the world. I would. I love it and want to bless them with all. That isn’t always for the best, and I am learning this. But I simply love Christmas, and like so many others, really am a kid at Christmas. Okay, I am probably like a kid most of the time, but there is something wonderful about Christmas and all that goes with it.

We are learning ourselves to give more away to others rather than spending all on ourselves. One of our family core values is Generosity! We have modeled and taught this to our own children, as well as, many others as we write and speak. You can read more about our family values by clicking here. We are wanting to give more away to help others and bless them to experience the joy of Christ’s love and having a Christmas.

So with all the black and cyber days to buy for ourselves and loved ones, let’s remember and begin to create another tradition of GivingTuesday!

Our denomination has offered 5 different opportunities for us to give. See the link below. There are many other ways as well. In fact our local church does a variety of things to help us serve and bless others. Just find a way to give to others and express the value of Generosity by participating in Giving Tuesday. We invite you to join us and many others to help those around the world or right in your neighborhood. Whether it is on GivingTuesday or some other time during Christmas, we encourage you to be generous and give to others.

For God so loved the world that he GAVE His one and only Son… let’s live this out to share and show the love of Christ this Christmas season.

https://www.wesleyan.org/givingtuesday

Merry Christmas!

Jim and Jerolyn Bogear

Legacy C3

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Happy Thanksgiving!

Nov 25, 2015 by Jim and Jerolyn Bogear

It’s Thanksgiving week here in United States. So we are suppose to write about being thankful, correct? I mean why wouldn’t you? But this isn’t a chore, even though it is dictated some by the calendar.

Thanksgiving is good for so many reasons but stopping to reflect and give thanks ranks right up there with them. Personally, I have grown to love Thanksgiving for many years. I am a Christmas Kid at heart but the family time, relaxed opportunity to hang out, and oh yes, delicious food make Thanksgiving a wonderful celebration for this “boy.”

One thing I (Jim) am learning is to implement more of a structured time to evaluate and reflect personally. We have also been learning through our coaching of business/corporate clients the importance of this reflection time on a daily and weekly basis.

But Thanksgiving gives us opportunity to pause and give thanks. To give thanks requires us to put at least a little thinking and reflection into what we are thankful for.

People say, me included, that we shouldn’t just be thankful at Thanksgiving time. But Thanksgiving, and celebrating this time, does help us catch ourselves from our fast pace to reflect and give thanks. That is in part what Thanksgiving is to do for us. So don’t excuse it as we should do it all the time; rather embrace it as a key reminder to take time to reflect and give thanks!

Take advantage to not let Thanksgiving simply be a holiday. Embrace it as a time to reflect and give thanks. We all have something or someone to be thankful. Many of us have so much.

I am so blessed and thankful. Thankful for all of you and how many of impacted my life. Grateful to God for all the blessings and favor, even in the challenging times of life.

There is so much to be thankful that you and I could list, so maybe not here, but take some time to reflect before responding to the question, “For what, or whom, are you thankful?” Then tell it to at least those who are closest to you. You will encourage them while reminding yourself of how much you have to be thankful for.

Happy Thanksgiving!

Jim and Jerolyn

Legacy C3

PS- Personal Thanksgiving note: As of this writing our youngest is in route home for Thanksgiving traveling from college a long way from us (It was a last minute kind of decision that we are thrilled happened). We are so excited AND thankful!!! For us…FAMILY!!!

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How Do You Say, “I’m Sorry?”

Jul 1, 2015 by Jim and Jerolyn Bogear

Jerolyn recently wrote about Timing and Tone for Conflict Resolution. She did a great job and we actually heard back from different ones on this…Thanks!

Here is something of a throwback, but still relevant today, that ties in with us dealing with, and addressing conflict in relationships. It is really about our responsibility and ownership in relationships that can help us bring about resolution and health. What do you think? Would love your stories and thoughts on this…A couple of words that often seem out of date…Repentance and Restitution.

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TNT Confrontation

Jun 10, 2015 by Jim and Jerolyn Bogear

 

How are you at confrontation? Most people I talk to say they hate confrontation and avoid it whenever possible. I don’t think there are many people who would say they love confrontation. For the most part, people would rather maintain peace, and confrontation does not seem very peaceful. But it can if done the right way.

I think there are two elements of confrontation that we must consider:

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It’s Not About Me!

May 13, 2015 by Jim and Jerolyn Bogear

 

I can tend to be a very selfish person. Yep, I just put that out there. I like things a certain way – usually my way. I like people to behave the way I think they need to behave. I like to be taken care of. And as an introvert, I really like my alone time. Just being honest here.

But lately God keeps bringing people into my life with the reminder that “It’s not about me!”

My first thought is, “But why can’t it be about me?” (Sigh) Then I put on my big girl pants, remember I’m not an infant, and get to being about my Father’s business.

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